Tips and Ideas for Shy people

Shy people face a lot of problems in their Life so We're Sharing some Tips and Ideas for Shy people to make there Life better, First, let's discuss some basic things on the nature of shyness. How could we define shyness? It is a phenomenon when a person, for whatever reason, feels uneasy or insecure when it finds him or herself in the center of public attention, or it can even manifest it when trying to approach a single person (for example dating). What could be the cause? There could be objective and subjective causes. Some people really do have some objective shortcoming that differentiate them for other people, and makes them look unusual or at least not compliant to the usual norms. The subjective case is much more prevalent – most often, people are shy because they have a low self esteem. But in the wider sense, both of these cases are subjective – even people with obvious physical and mental disabilities do not have an objective reason to be shy, let alone people who don't have them.

The main point is to work on improving your image.

So what can a person do to overcome this shyness? One of the obvious things would be to suggest to practice going out, meeting new people. One could try to fight his insecurity and go to various places, try to overcome his inner insecurity and work on building self confidence that way. Various helpful tips could be given here – if you go this path, you should remember to:

-pay attention to the way you dress and look – try to stand in front of mirror and imagine yourself from the perspective of others - but do not obsess about every little flaw you think you have or spend hours in front of the mirror...

  When you go out:

• smile as much as you can.
• try to overcome your insecurity and approach as many new people as you can.
• avoid assuming that everyone is better and more self-assured than you. Often, people act as if they are full of confidence, and in reality, many of them feel insecure at least as much as you.
• so, try to help them, to approach them in friendly way, to offer them help.
• it is best to start talking about simple, everyday things. Do not try to boost your self confidence using technical or philosophical language, or even by forcing yourself to talk in aggressive or dominant manner. They will probably be able to see you are acting.

The second way to try to resolve your shyness problem would be to start by improving your own self image, the way you see yourself, and then proceed to the methods given above. For this method, it would be a good advice to find some interest, reading, playing music, sports..Getting at least somewhat versed in these areas will build your self confidence, and you will feel surer about yourself. No one will appreciate us if we don't appreciate you. So if you feel confident, if you start feeling capable, strong, focused, you will immediately find it is much easier and less stressful when you go out and meet new people, and it will make you not see it as a catastrophe when you feel rejected or ignored. To people who ignore you, you can then just tell: “Your loss!”